Dec 31, 2013

- What will you make of the blank slate that is 2014?

What can you create? What changes can you make stick?

These are the questions to ask ourselves right now. Imagine a year from now, as we’re finishing 2014 — what new habits will you have then?

You can take the usual approach and make a bunch of New Year’s resolutions, and fail at pretty much all of them. Or you can focus on one habit a month, and use proven techniques to make them stick.

At the end of a year, you’ll have 12 new habits. Even if only half of those habits managed to stick, your life would be greatly changed.

May I make a few suggestions?


  • Aim for long-term changes that will have compound interest over the years.
  • Make one change at a time for maximum effectiveness.
  • Find accountability to help yourself stick to the changes.
  • One per month means 12 changes for the year.

Here are the 12 changes I suggest for 2014:

Focus on:

  1. Unprocrastination
  2. Exercise
  3. Meditation
  4. Self-compassion
  5. Wake early
  6. Declutter
  7. Let go of expectations
  8. Simple living
  9. Productivity
  10. Improve relationships
  11. Contentment

Nov 14, 2013

- 23 Ways to Improve Your productivity

“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”Leonardo Da Vinci
“If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it.”
Olin Miller
10 years ago I was a big slacker. I procrastinated most of the time and had very few helpful habits for when I actually did some work.
These days things are a different. I usually get more done in a day than I used to get done in a week back then.
So today I would like to share 23 habits that have helped me – and still help me – to make such a big shift in my own life over the past years.

I hope you will find something helpful in this article.
1. Do the most important task of the day first thing in the morning.
Getting the most important task of the day – this is also most often one of the hardest ones – done early in the day will lift a weight off your shoulders. You’ll feel good about yourself and feel less inner resistance towards taking action and getting more things done for the rest of the day.
2. Use a very limited to-do list.
If you have a to-do list with 10 items then it can very easily feel overwhelming. Or you become unfocused or confused about what to work on. Or you procrastinate on the few really important tasks as you work on the rest of the list. So instead, limit your daily to-do list to just 2-3 of the most important items.
I sometimes only have 1 item on my list. But if I get that one done then it usually means more than getting 10 of the less important tasks done.
3. Single-task both work and rest.
Multitasking might feel like you are doing things quicker. But it usually winds up in depleting your energy faster, in several things being done not as well as they could have been and in few things actually being finished.
So instead, do just one thing at a time. No matter what it is that you do during your day, if it is work or something you do while resting and recharging.
It will reduce stress either way.
4. Keep a minimalistic workspace.
I find it is easier to focus on the most important things, to keep the stress away and to single-task when my workspace is simple and uncluttered.
I keep a minimalistic workspace with only a laptop and a glass of water on a black and small wooden desk.
5. Take small steps.
By just focusing on taking one small step at a time you can greatly reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed and the impulse to flee into procrastination. So break projects or daily or weekly tasks down into small and actionable steps.
Then single-task it one step at a time.
6. Take even smaller steps when needed.
If you have a small step you want to take but find that you just get lost in procrastination when you think about it then go even smaller.
Find an even smaller step that will move you forward. Perhaps just getting started with your essay for 2 minutes or even just 1. Instead of the 10 or 30 minutes as you had originally planned.
7. Go slow.
One good way to do more focused work is to simply to slow down. To take a step forward but to do it slowly. I have found that by just doing something at a slower pace it also feels less like a mental burden and so I am less likely to procrastinate.
8. Eliminate.
Regularly ask yourself: what tasks can I simply eliminate and not do with few or no consequences? It is easy to just keep doing things because “you should” or because it is what you have always done.
So question how you go about things to free up time, energy and your attention.
There is often room in life to simplify through elimination.
9. Block out the common time-wasting sites online.
When I write then I am usually not even connected to the internet. This greatly reduces the risk of being distracted.
If you have to be online while working then try using an extension for your browser like StayFoucsd or some similar program to block your access to the websites where you know you are likely to waste time or procrastinate.
10. Work in a cone of silence.
Don’t’ stop at being disconnected or with blocking time-wasters online. Shut the door to your office if possible. Shut down instant messaging programs and notifications for new emails. Put your cell phone on silent and put it in a drawer where you can’t see for a while.
Then enjoy the silence and being able to focus with a lot less risk of distractions.
11. Balance fully focused work with fully focused rest.
By doing so you’ll be able to keep your mental sharpness and energy up for the whole day and workweek. I do this by setting my egg-timer for 45 minutes. During those minutes I only focus on the task at hand and it becomes easier to do so because I know that I only have to do it for this limited time period.
When the egg-timer rings I set it for 15 minutes. During those minutes I focus fully on just resting by having a snack, taking a short walk or resting with closed eyes on my couch.
12. Celebrate both small and bigger triumphs.
If you achieve something big then celebrate it by treating yourself to something for example.
And if you have only had small triumphs during the day then still take 2 minutes at the end of it to appreciate and celebrate what you have accomplished.
This will motivate you to get going tomorrow too. And it will make you feel good about yourself and that feeling will spread to the people in your life too.
13. Don’t beat yourself up when things don’t go as planned.
Be kind to yourself and ask yourself: what is one thing I can learn from this?
Use what you can learn to do things better and to avoid making the same mistake in the future. Instead of spending time and energy on regretting the past that you cannot change anyway.
14. Do what you really, really, really want to do.
When you are doing what YOU deep down find fun, exciting, interesting or fulfilling then the motivation tends to come naturally and in big doses. So try to find ways to spend more of your time on doing what you really want to do.
15. Refuel your enthusiasm regularly.
On some days the enthusiasm may be lacking. If so, try to refuel it. Get an enthusiastic vibe by listening to a podcast or audio book or by reading a book or blog for just 10 minutes created by someone who is enthusiastic.
Or talk to an enthusiastic person in your life and let his or her feelings flow over to you.
16. Write down your top 4 priorities in life.
Post that note where you can see it every day to stay on track with what matters most to you. And to not get lost in busy work or in what may frankly matter more to other people than it does to you.
17. Let emails and other checking wait until the end of the day.
Or at least a few hours. Don’t start your day with processing email – if possible – because it can add a lot of stress and suck away energy early in the day.
It can also make it hard to truly focus later on as you try to work on the most important tasks of your day. Or even to find enough time for them if you get too distracted by your inbox.
18. Limited your daily information input.
Regularly unsubscribe to blogs, podcasts, forums and email newsletters that you rarely spend any time on or that doesn’t add much value to your life anymore.
Keep only the most helpful, inspiring and best ones. This very simple thing can free up quite a bit of both time and attention in a month.
19. Have a disconnected day or weekend.
I usually take at least one internet free day a week. I rarely check my emails on Saturdays or Sundays. Instead I spend time with the people in my life, a good book or movie, being outdoors or I do some other fun activity.
This recharges me and by having this clear boundary between work and rest I do not get stuck in worries, stress while trying to rest or in being distracted by work in my mind while trying to have quality time with the people in my life nearly as much as I used to.
20. Focus more on the how to and not so much on the what-ifs.
Don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis, overthinking and the worry and lack of self-confidence that usually comes from that. Instead, focus on what you can do, on what action you can take to move forward.
Ask yourself: What is one small step I can take today to move forward towards my goal or out of this situation?
21. Each day ask yourself questions that help you to focus or refocus.
It is easy to get off track during a regular workday. To stay on track or to get back there if you get lost use questions like:
  • What is the most important thing I can do right now?
  • What would I work on if I only had 2 hours for work today?
If you like, write these questions down on a note and put that note where you cannot avoid seeing it during your day.
22. When overwhelmed, breathe and then say to yourself: just take care of today.
Focus only on that. Forget about all those tomorrows and your yesterdays that could be bouncing around in your head. Go small, narrow your focus greatly and just take care of today.
And then take care of tomorrow when it comes.
23. Don’t forget about the 3 fundamentals of energy.
By that I mean getting enough sleep, exercising a couple of times a week and eating healthy. This may seem very obvious in theory.

But in practice and in my experience it makes a world of difference for your optimism, energy levels, ability to handle stress and to think clearly.


(positivity blog)

Nov 13, 2013

- 18 Timeless Secrets of Happy People

It’s common to hear people say that fame only brings unhappiness. Not true! As these wise words from modern and historical celebrities (and a group of happiness scientists) show, they’ve figured out the secrets of happy people and a happy life. Let’s hear it in their own words, shall we?


1. Happiness is who you are
“I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition”- Martha Washington

Genuinely happy people have an almost magical ability to stay in good spirits even when there isn’t a great deal to be cheerful about. When happiness is a core aspect of your personality, nothing can force you to be unhappy.

2. Happiness is a choice you make
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be.”- Groucho Marx

The next time you find yourself in a difficult situation, ask yourself this: would you rather have a difficult and unhappy time, or stay happy through the tough times? Your choice.

3. Happiness comes from self-consistency
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
- Mahatma Gandhi

As any psychologist will tell you, it’s human nature to want your thoughts, words and deeds to be consistent—but you’ll often find yourself trying to fit the mould of what you think other people want instead of being fully and consistently yourself. That leads to conflict in your mind, which leads to a less happy life.

4. Happiness is your responsibility“Don’t wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get you’ve got to make yourself.”- Alice Walker

There’s nothing more depressing than waiting for the happiness delivery guy. Why? Because he doesn’t exist. Decide to deliver your own happiness, and you can free yourself from a very long wait.

5. Happiness is best served in moderation
“We cannot be happy if we expect to live all the time at the highest peak of intensity. Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony.”
- Thomas Merton

Guess what? Spending all your time wishing you were happier will only make you more depressed. Aim for a comfortable day-to-day background level of happiness, rather than a huge blast of ecstatic joy that leaves you feeling wiped out.

6. Happiness is not in your memories“The first recipe for happiness is: avoid too lengthy meditation on the past.”
- Andre Maurois

Reminiscing about good memories can leave you feeling happy for a while, it’s true, but the source of happiness is now. Dwelling on past happiness doesn’t change today, so stay in the present to make this your happy day. And if you find yourself dwelling on unhappy memories instead, let them go—all they do is keep you from achieving happiness today.

7. Happiness is not in your ambitions“Future: That period of time in which our affairs prosper, our friends are true and our happiness is assured.”- Ambrose Bierce

The author of The Devil’s Dictionary, Ambrose Bierce knew exactly how to be happy: simply avoid pinning your hopes on the unpredictable future. (He also knew a lot about sarcasm.) Hopes and ambitions for the future are nice, but being happy in the moment is better.

8. Happiness is contagious“Whoever is happy will make others happy too.”- Anne Frank

It’s a fact: smiling at somebody tends to make them feel happier. Laughing has an even stronger effect. So wherever you go, share your happiness with the people you meet, and surround yourself with happy people if you can.




9. Happiness is destroyed by envy
“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.”- Woody Allen

Nobody who spends their life wishing they had more than they’ve got is ever going to achieve lasting happiness. But if you dial down your sense of envy and entitlement, you’ll be happy more often than not.

10. Happiness can’t be bought“Money won’t make you happy… but everyone wants to find out for themselves.”- Zig Ziglar

As a cliche, “you can’t buy happiness” is right up there with classics like “no use crying over spilt milk” or “crime doesn’t pay”, but the reason those cliches are so popular is that they’ve got a big hunk of truth in them, so don’t expect to get happier by spending more money!

11. Happiness can’t be compared“The man with a toothache thinks everyone happy whose teeth are sound.”- George Bernard Shaw

Before you make yourself unhappy by fretting that everybody else is happier than you, realise that they’ve all got problems; that’s… well, that’s life, folks. Instead of comparing your happiness to somebody else’s, try comparing it to your saddest moments. Suddenly, things don’t seem so bad after all.

12. Happiness is not on Facebook“The more they used Facebook… the more their life satisfaction levels declined over time.”
- Ethan Kross et al., in a research paper

Seriously, did you think all those party photos and excitable status updates meant that everyone’s having a ball? Nope, it just means they post on Facebook when they’re happy because they want to share that happiness (and maybe brag about it just a tiny bit). See happiness secret #11!

13. Happiness is making every day matter“As a well-spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings happy death.”
- Leonardo da Vinci

Inaction rarely makes people happy. We need to feel that our existence has meaning and purpose in order to be happy, so spend each day doing the things that are most important to you.

14. Happiness means knowing what you love“It’s a helluva start, being able to recognize what makes you happy.”
- Lucille Ball

Let’s face it—if you don’t know what makes you happy it’s about time you started to figure it out. What makes you smile? What leaves you feeling great? Keep on with those things and your happiness will always have fuel.

15. Happiness is a gift. Accept it.“I must learn to be content with being happier than I deserve.”- Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

Are you cheating yourself out of happiness because you don’t feel you’ve earned it? Breaking news: you don’t have to earn happiness. It’s a gift—from your friends, from strangers, from the universe, from yourself. Give it and accept it freely so there’s always plenty in circulation.

16. Happiness is one side of life’s coin“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.”- Carl Jung

Nobody can be happy all of the time. If you were, you wouldn’t be able to recognise your happiness because you’d have nothing to compare it to!

17. Happiness is loving (and being loved in return)“If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”- Socrates

For most of us, a great deal of life’s happiness comes from being around the people we love, and knowing that they love us right back.

18. Happiness comes when you stop looking for it“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.”- Albert Camus

The quest for happiness is easily confused with the desire for things that we believe might make us happy. On closer inspection, though, some of the happiest people in the world are those who've stopped hunting for a magical happiness guarantee, and are simply happy to exist.



(lifehack)

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