“How am I gonna control this anger’!”
“Is it even POSSIBLE to control my anger’”
“They’re making me angry!”
All we know is someone is doing something - and we’re left feeling angry. It’s easy to conclude the particular situation we’re looking at today is the source of the anger we feel inside. Because we’re angry RIGHT NOW!
We hear that little noise, and we conclude the person who touched the jiggler is responsible for the release of pressure inside of us. And they would be, if it was their jiggler sitting atop their pressure cooker on their stove in their kitchen.
Cause you’ve got your own pressure to deal with. One way is to blame the never-ending parade of people and circumstances that keep ‘making? you angry.
“Hey! I’m trying to control my anger here!! Why are you making me mad’!”
Get out pen and paper and start writing ‘anger letters’. Write down all the things that make you angry. To all the people who make you angry. Not as a way for them to ‘get it’. (It’s YOUR anger, remember’)