The Essence of Resilience: Not Being a Victim
The good news is that victimhood is perpetuated by the stories we tell ourselves. Why good news? Because being a victim is not inherent in the events that actually befall us; it is a choice we can make by the thoughts we support with our attention. Paying attention is like giving fertilizer to a plant – what we feed is what becomes our reality.
Discover Your Inner ResilienceStudies of resilient people have revealed a number of qualities that encourage thriving, no matter what circumstances occur. See how you might actualize them in your own life.
- Strong relationships with people who support, encourage, and reassure;
- The willingness to allow strong feelings – anger, grief, fear – without avoiding them;
- The ability to make a plan and carry it out;
- Confidence – an attitude of “I can,” rather than “I can’t.” Trusting oneself and one’s abilities;
- The capacity to learn from life experiences. People who emerge from challenging circumstances often report insights such as greater clarity about life and appreciation for loved ones. They feel gratitude for what the experience has brought to their lives.
- Self-care. Resilient people are attentive to their own needs. They nurture themselves, and seek out help when needed.
Are you resilient? What have you learned about dealing with difficult life circumstances?