May 18, 2011
Lonely at the Top
But the dark side of narcissism is isolation. Narcissistic leaders lose touch with reality because they can’t relate to anyone. They may be good talkers but they’re bad listeners which, eventually, makes them uninteresting to peers. Narcissists unwittingly but unerringly demean those around them because they see no one but themselves and their needs. So eventually, they’re surrounded only by slaves and sycophants. No one is rewarded for dissent or debate.
Moreover, powerful people appraise information differently. Academic studies have shown that they are more like to be optimistic, to think in purely abstract terms and, most worryingly of all, to be confident. In other words, they feel invincible. And that means they’re prone to enormous risks. (Bill Clinton is the poster child for this syndrome.) Couple this with all the trappings of power - limousines, private jets, hotel suites - and the psychic isolation is made physical too.
The smartest leaders appreciate that power is a problem, not a luxury. Dominique Strauss-Kahn appears not to have been one of these. But beyond suffering from narcissism and the inherent problems of power, DSK seems to have been blind to two fundamental truths every leader needs to think about.
1. You’re not in Paris anymore
The ‘I’ in IMF stands for ‘international’. That means: running a global organization takes you outside your own mores and morals. What plays in France doesn’t necessarily play in New Jersey or Beijing. There is all the difference in the world between a national and an international role.
2. The Personal is the Professional
We all do different things at home than at work. I don’t cook in the office and I try not to give speeches at home. What remains consistent are the values I espouse in both places. Leaders who try to be one thing at work and something else in their private lives end up, at best, distracted and confused. More likely, their hypocrisy becomes evident and their authority wanes. Our private and professional lives may unfold in different spaces but we wear the same faces - and everyone can read them.
Why do you think there are so many examples of leaders behaving badly?
May 5, 2011
Cold sores are caused by herpes virus!!! yes a virus...I was surprized too myself this week when i got infected after a cold-flu run period. I thought the cold was over when i completed my Klacid course because of my track infection, but the sores had already erupted, around the nose area.
The herpes virus feeds off an amino acid called arginine. If you supplement lysine, an amino acid that looks like arginine, you fool the virus and effectively starve it!
Supplementing 1,000mg is recommended every day, away from food, to keep the virus at bay. When you have an active infection, supplement 3,000mg of lysine a day and cut right back on foods rich in arginine, which include beans, lentils, nuts and chocolate. The more stressed you are, the weaker your immune system becomes, and this allows the virus to become active - which is why many people succumb to cold sores when they're run down. A powerful immune-boosting combination is 3g of vitamin C every day; take it with lysine.
Some people are now getting great results staying off cold sores with a special form of sulphur, MSM. This is an anti-viral and appears to strip away the protective coating of a virus. You can get MSM in supplement and cream form. Start by taking 3g a day, and work up until you find the dose that keeps your cold sores away; for some people this is 10g.
As always, under extreme conditions consult with your doctor :)